Mom forces 19-year-old daughter to use her $7000 of scholarship money to buy her grandma a new trailer home: 'She says she will pay me back, but I don't trust her.'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Dec 14, 2025 11:00 AM EST

She shouldn't be using that money for anything other than school. 

I will never understand parents who intentionally clip their children's wings for their own selfish reasons. They will sabotage career opportunities and relationships that can benefit their kids in the long run merely because it makes them temporarily upset or uncomfortable. I'm sure there are thousands of moms around the world who cry for months after dropping off their kids at an Ivy League school, but they would never consider not letting them attend it, even if it upsets them. Being a parent takes endless sacrifices, and once your kid grows up, you must make the sacrifice of letting them go and experience the world on their own. The best parents do what they can to help their kids, but they also know when to let them make their own decisions. They need to be allowed to fail and given space to make decisions for themselves, not for their parents. No young adult should feel they have to deny themselves opportunities to support their older family members, who have been on this planet a whole lot longer than they have and have had time to build themselves up. 

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  • The young woman in this story has a mother and a grandmother who do not have her best interests at heart. Her mom wants her to use her scholarship money to buy her grandma a trailer. She claims she'll pay her back…yeah right. 

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  • Am I the bad guy? My mom is trying to force me to use my scholarship to buy my grandma a trailer

    Me 19f received a full ride scholarship to a good college in my area, i currently go to for social work. I also received almost 7,000 dollars on top of this for school expenses and living. I need money to live on campus over the summer. She wants to buy my grandma a new trailer and says she will pay me back but i dont trust her. The trailer is currently
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  • safe to live in and they will not be kicked out. Am i the asshole for saying no? Edit: She had access to my account and does help me with money sometimes and helps me so i feel like i owe her and don't want to ruin our family relationship.
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  • That_Bee_Baker NTA at all! Your mom should not be asking you for this money for any purpose. It is your scholarship and living expenses to pursue your degree, and you need to use it for those things only. Make sure your bank account is separate from your mother's/grandmother's. And in the future, don't tell your mother how much you have received in a scholarship, how much you have in savings, how much you earn when you begin to get paychecks. It sounds as though she will consider it up for grabs
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  • OP Fit_Finger2190 Thank you!
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  • Rredhead926 This isn't an AITA situation. You use your scholarship money for you, no one else. Period. But, since it is the name of the sub: NTA.
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  • OP Fit_Finger2190 Its hard to say no to family though
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  • NTA thechaoticstorm Depending on the terms, that would be fraud and you could lose your scholarship. That is for you alone.
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  • OP Fit_Finger2190 I am worried because we share a bank account and she has access to it
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  • nerdyconstructiongal NTA and take her off your account ASAP. I would check the details of your scholarship. A lot have rules where it has to be spent on schooling stuff not just bankrolling family.
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  • ParticularAd1735 NTA. That money is for your education expenses. Don't let anyone use it for anything else.
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  • Competitive_Ninja668 NTA. Don't do that. That money is for you and only you.
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  • Ilw0516 Are there any parameters of what you can use that scholarship money for? Would it unqualify you if you buy someone else a trailer with it?
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  • DolQual123 NTA, using that money for non- school living expenses can get you in legal trouble
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